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Friday, October 15, 2010

Petals Honoring Infant and Pregnancy Losses Today - October 15

October 15th is National Infant and Pregnancy Loss Awareness Day!  On Tuesday I read the post Reading Aloud on October 15th by afteriris.  She invited people to leave the names of those pregnancies and infants that they have lost so she can read them out loud in remembrance.  I thought this was such a wonderful sentiment to support others that have experienced such a painful loss. 

This post inspired me to do more.  Each day I remember my lost daughter in my own way, privately.  I wanted to do something to honor all the losses experienced by each and every one of you (including those that have never gotten a BFP because you experience loss as well).  Tonight I will be taking white rose petals, in honor of each of you and spreading the petals at my local pond.  I have invited others in my family to join me. 

Will you join me as well?  I bought a single white rose at my local grocery store florist but you can take a flower from your garden... if you don't have a pond close by... take the petals and throw them in the wind. Or do something else that is meaningful to you, light a candle, say a prayer, sing a song in remembrance, write a letter, post a poem or reading in "After Iris Reads Aloud" AND leave a comment here.

At times I think that I have become so strong in handling my losses until I speak (or type) about it.  It is still hard to not let the emotions take over completely!  I realize that I have learned to live with the pain fairly well, but it is always on the surface.  It is a part of me, it is part of what makes me who I am, I hate that I have had these experiences and I hate that so many of you have also.  But it is part of my journey and in the end it is the journey that I live.  I saw a poster this morning entitled “Journey” that said, “It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end”, by Ursula K. LeGuin.


  1. I will be lighting my candle and thinking of you and yours (*hugs*)

  2. Thank you for the support! Hugs to you... Here is also a great video.

  3. A friend of mine from high school posted this on her FB page as she experienced a loss @ 22 weeks. As a NICU nurse and an infertility patient, this is something that hits very close to home. I will be lighting my candle and remembering my own losses, as well as those of my friends, and my patients. Thank you for posting this.

  4. Thank you so much for lighting your candle in the "Wave of Light" and for honoring this day!